Memories of Ester Navarro Castaneda --
Our earthly life is one of dying to something and resurrecting to something new. How appropriate that Ester's earthly life ended on Good Friday when we were commemorating the Crucifixion of Jesus and she resurrected to her glory in God's kingdom. It is so much a tribute to her life.
Ester entered my life quietly and without fanfare. Her father had passed away and her mother continued living in the same house with her five daughters and one son, Tanita, Ester, Maria, Maria Eden, "Lupito", and Elida. Her mother stayed home. Tanita, Ester, and Maria worked and Maria Eden, Lupito and Elida attended school.
My brother Pablo R. Castaneda Sr., may his soul rest in peace, fell in love with her. He was impressed with the way she expected him to respect her. He was more than happy to do so and immediately told his family that he wanted to marry her. They were married in April 1946 shortly after his discharge from the armed forces during the second World War.
Jobs in Mercedes were scarce and they moved to Toledo, Ohio where my brother knew a family from Mercedes who lived there. She was never happy to live so far away from her family. She especially wanted to move back to Texas because her sister, Maria Eden, became sick. Upon their return, she spent a lot of time with Maria Eden before she passed away. They settled in Mercedes, but my brother just couldn't find a good job to take care of their seven children, three boys and four girls, Pablo, Jr., Maria Eden (also called "Mary" or "Nena"), Blanca Estella, Juanito "Johnny" (deceased), Mary Ester, Rolando, and Evangelina. They moved to Weslaco and bought the house where they lived until their earthly departure.
My brother was not easy to live with, but Ester managed to keep peace by talking quietly to the children and telling my brother where he was wrong. I can still hear my brother saying, "Ay mi Estercita aguanta mucho" (My Estercita endures a lot.) In my observation the two oldest children, Pablo, Jr. and Mary, set the example of how to treat their parents in their advanced stage of life.I never saw or heard them arguing or disagreeing. Mary in particular devoted her life to them; making sure they had groceries and medications.
Our church bulletin stated that "We always want to be close to our loved ones. Death separates us from our loved ones and that is why it is painful and agonizing Jesus' resurrection from the dead is the best remedy for pain caused by death."
To her children I say, grieve, and then continue to live your lives knowing that you were there for your mother until the very end.
Aunt Margaret